If you are still in the relationship:

1. Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
2. Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
3. Keep change with you at all times.
4. Memorize all important numbers.
5. Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
6. Think about what you will say to your partner if he/she becomes violent.

REMEMBER: You have the right to live without fear and violence.

If you have left the relationship:

1. Change your phone number.
2. Screen calls.
3. Save & document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the abuser.
4. Change locks, if the abuser has access to a key.
5. Avoid staying alone.
6. Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
7. If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
8. Vary your routine.
9. Notify work and/or school contacts.
10. Call a shelter.

If you leave the relationship or are thinking of leaving, you should take important documents with you to enable you to apply for benefits or take legal action.


Important documents you should take include:
- Social security cards & Birth certificates for you and your children
- Your marriage license
- Leases or deeds in your name or both yours and your partner's names
- Your checkbook
- Bank statements and charge account statements
- Your charge cards
- Proof of income for you and your partner (pay stubs or W-2's)
- Insurance policies
- Any documentation of past abuse (photos, police reports, medical records, etc.)